July 1, 2015

To Have Or Not To Have Children In This Age Of Wickedness

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The only thing to fear is if the parents disbelieve truth, forget it, and fail to teach it.

Do you fear for the world your children will grow up and live in? I’ve heard that concern frequently as of late from soon-to-be parents or parents with young children. On one hand this is a very serious consideration, while on another it is of the most trivial nature. Let us consider the situation and ask ourselves some very intense personal questions.

Consider the following 15 questions carefully. These are difficult question to seriously ask ourselves. I do believe that with asking them and considering the answers that we also will find the answer to this prevailing question: Should you have children in this age of wickedness?

This is not by any means an exhaustive list, but simply those that come to my mind this week. These questions will include declarations of realities, warnings to heed, and encouragement to proceed.

1. Am I a child of God?

If you are reading my blog you probably realize that this is written by a Christian for Christians, so this question may seem irrelevant. Perhaps so, but it is intended to make us think. Think of your children or future children. How do/would you treat them? You would probably care about every need, love them, provide for them, teach them guide them. Being a child of God means we are loved unconditionally and provided for by Him. To me, that is a very reassuring fact.

This is not a time to panic. I am confident that my trust is in the same sovereign God as believers trusted in for all the centuries past. Why lose trust now after all you have experienced in your journey of faith?

Even I, in spite of a steadfast hope, am concerned. This is quite normal and expected for anyone who knows the truth and sees the depravity of mankind. But God still reigns in this world. I’m so glad I’m a child of the King of Kings.

2. Noah and Naamah Were Exactly Like Me; do I believe That?

“And God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.”     -Genesis 6:5

“But as the days of Noah were, so shall also the coming of the Son of man be. For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, and knew not until the flood came, and took them all away; so shall also the coming of the Son of man be.”     -Matthew 24:37-39

Consider Noah and his wife, a righteous heterosexual couple amidst a generation very much like ours today. To those who relate to that description, I ask you to concede that the very thoughts you and your spouse are having about concern for your children were most definitely on their minds as well. I imagine Naamah saying, “Noah dear, I am so afraid to have children. Look at the horrible, God-defiling world around us. It’s only going to get worse, I can’t bear the thought of them potentially being persecuted. Besides,  the end of the world is probably very near.”

3. Did I know I am in prophecy?

It sure sounds to me that people kept getting married and kept having children until the day of destruction/Salvation. So this is also a prophecy: you will marry and have children until the day of destruction/salvation just like in the days of Noah.

Note that three sons were indeed born to this couple. Oh, and note that God provided salvation for those who remained righteous. The wicked had their season, but ultimately rejected God and are suffering the consequences while Noah’s family enjoys a land not covered by water, but by the presence of God.

4. Is the world getting worse as far as danger to Christians’ lives?

Sin of course has been around a long time, and there is nothing new under the sun. The farther from the fall we get, the more sinful man seems to become. Sin becoming acceptable leads to danger for Christians, but that is nothing new.

I have recently read volumes of history by first-century Romano-Jewish scholar, historian and hagiographer Joseph ben Matityahu (Titus Flavius Josephus). Ever since this undertaking I am now aware that the times we face today are rather pleasant and calm. Don’t believe me? Well then I challenge you to take any portion of accurate history, ancient or recent, and understand that the world has always been dangerously spiraling out of control since sin entered the world. Your perspective will immediately change.

5. Is the issue with the wickedness of the world around me, or could it be with my own insecurity?

Am I anxious for the day the wicked are punished? Am I selective in who I judge as dangerous and evil? Is my supposed fear for others (the next generation) a cover up for my own weak faith?

Perhaps you are concerned about your own physical well being. I dislike pain and persecution just as much as anyone, if not more. We also don’t want to see loved ones suffer. Often this verse gets our attention:

“But woe to those who are pregnant and to those who are nursing babies in those days!”     -Matthew 24:19

In context we see that this is in the tribulation. These happenings and warnings in Matthew 24:15-20 were fulfilled once already in the destruction of Jerusalem in A.D. 70, but will repeat again in the tribulation. Without venturing into that right now, take a look at the next question.

6. Do I claim to know the inside scoop in God’s plan by saying it is the ‘end times?’

While I won’t deny that we are nearing God’s judgment, I want to caution us as to the limitation of our perception. Yes, we are seeing the collapse of morality from the American society, but this does not mean we are a chosen nation whose end means the end for the rest of the world. This is a haughty attitude. Wickedness may be increasing here and persecution imminent, but there are other countries where a reverse trend is happening. Ever since the second generation of man there has been a rise and fall of nations. We happen to be in the one fall of many throughout time. One of those will be the last, however, but if we are a child of God we will also rise in those last days.

Each generation sees greater wickedness. Your parents probably considered not having children due to the worsening moral conditions. We all can imagine what would have happened if Noah and Naamah had decided the world was too dangerous and wicked to raise a family. They would have been the last righteous couple on earth, and I think we wouldn’t have blamed them if they chose not to procreate. Of course, the world population would have ceased to exist, which would have been perfectly fine IF that was God’s will. But it wasn’t, and we have no right to say that it is His will this time.

7. Am I justifying selfishness and laziness with reasons that sound spiritual?

Teaching another generation is difficult and requires much time and effort. It requires giving up self. But let’s not not do it for selfish reasons. Raising a family is hard, and it takes the grace of God. Let’s not avoid raising a family because we are doing mission work, too busy for God, or overly concerned about the unrighteous world they would grow up in.

This “the world is ending anyhow” attitude can lead to an entitlement mentality where we fend for ourselves only while unconsciously failing to share the gospel. We become lazy and unfruitful in harvest, and fail to multiply good seed on the earth nor raise up children of God. Part of sharing the Gospel is raising a family and leading by example.

8. Have I considered those who would like children but cannot?

Some parents deeply long to raise their own children but are physically unable. How must this make them feel when they hear parents give trivial reasons to not have them? They feel like they have nothing, and yet they hear others speak, even when not serious, about not having children. Some of these folks go to great lengths to try everything possible to be fertile, but to no avail, while others do all they can not to get pregnant. If you have and can have children, praise God for the opportunity to raise such wonderful bundles of blessings.

9. Have I read about my own heart’s wickedness today?

You probably don’t read about your own heart’s wickedness in the news very often. If you post something on social media, more than likely you try to be appropriate and not update your status after every sin you commit. You may convince yourself that your profile is quite innocent compared to the wicked, hate-filled, and inappropriate news feeds of others. I do know a place where you can read such news about yourself though. It’s in the Bible of course, and it refers to people just like you in a time just like today.

“And God saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.”     -Genesis 6:5

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”     -Jeremiah 17:9

10. Am I being deceived by my News Feed?

The world is going crazy. As I wait for the dust to settle, I am increasingly aware that it may not. Yet I am aware that it may not be as bad as it seems. The behind the scenes media powers are cleverly testing and developing means of allowing us to see types of content that they want with whatever slant they want. Algorithms of Facebook, for example, control what you see in the news feed. Social media literally has the power to instantly and simultaneously create national panic, influence moods and reactions, stir up controversy, spread certain topics, filter content, etc. So yes, the world is going crazy. But if you lived offline, it wouldn’t seem as intense.

Are you getting the correct news?

The Bible, on the other hand, has no algorithms to control what you read. All of it is given by inspiration of God and is good for all sorts of things like instruction and correction.

11. Do I page through the Bible with the same stamina that I scroll through webpages?

Are you absorbing words of truth, power, comfort, wisdom, and hope from God’s Word? Or are you taking in the lies, fears, and darkness of the world? Which takes your attention the most? Which do you believe the most? Which do you

12. Does Jesus care about my children?

Yes, I believe Jesus has a tender spot in his heart for children. In each passage of Scripture where Jesus interacts with them we see Him treat the children with kindness and love, therefore showing how much He values them. Jesus not only welcomes the children into His presence but also blesses each one individually.

Over the course of His ministry, Jesus often presented children as an example of the type of faith adults are to have. The Bible records that many parents, knowing Jesus’ love for children and His ability to perform miracles, brought their children to Jesus. That is the type of unswerving faith that believes God is who He says He is. As parents provide for and protect their children, so much more does God care for them. And like children who rely on their parents’ provision for daily needs, we should depend on our Heavenly Father for provision in both the spiritual and physical realm.

13. Am I even sure and is it obvious that I have the Holy Spirit in my life?

“For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”    -II Timothy 1:7

In more words, if you are living in a state of fear, you need to seriously question if the Holy Spirit is in your life. God gives us His power in our everyday life. This power is available to you in every situation you encounter. Also, God has taught us how to love by His example of first loving us. God gives us the spirit of love. Lastly and not least, God gives us stability in our thought life, our emotions, and future uncertainties.

Man is controlled by flesh and false spirits. We are controlled by the Holy Spirit. Allow Him residence in your life. I can’t imagine a safer life than that which has God living within it. Not only that, but your life will overflow and God’s presence will piece the darkness and convict man’s heart.

14. Do I understand the Kingdom of Heaven?

It has been said that dying for your faith is easy, but living for it is very hard. If you can relate to that, I believe you understand the Kingdom of Heaven.

Life is temporary here as we know it, but it will go on forever in a better place if we know Jesus. We can’t see that home, so we sometimes forget about it and live only for the life we grasp tangibly.  I do not insinuate that we should shrug off the realities that consume our lives today which will inevitably be multiplied in our children’s generation. The reality of life, albeit short lived, is a factor we must acknowledge.

The church of the 1st century, the believers who were just learning about Christ with no strong legacy foundation were able to thrive in spite of a pagan world and severe persecution. Those believers are experiencing an eternal reward. Their relationship with God allows them to live in his house forever.

15. Do I feel like I can’t do anything big enough?

Don’t expect laws to change moral issues. You can’t change everyone’s hearts, but you can for sure influence your children’s. This is such a powerful opportunity and responsibility.

If parents understand that this life is temporary and we live for the Kingdom of God, then the responsibility is to teach the children. If the children believe and understand it, there is nothing to fear. The only thing to fear is if the parents disbelieve it, forget it, and fail to teach it.


Hello, I'm Nelson Lee Miller.

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